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Obama Supporters Are Hurting Him


I committed to Obama weeks ago after his speech about Rev. Wright. Announced it right here in this forum. So I'm on YOUR SIDE. But if I so much as suggest the "bitter" thing was ill stated or ask any questions at all about him as a candidate I am dressed down by most folks here.
I'll tell you who is bitter and it's you people! You are so ANGRY that you will not allow any discussion that you can in anyway try to cast as somehow negative to Obama. Even if it is not meant in that vein. But I have gotten to the point where I so dislike many of the posters that I avoid even looking at the site for weeks at a time.
Because of the animosity I feel coming in waves off of so many Obama supporters I have already decided that, although I will vote for the him I will not work on the campaign.
The Democratic party is going to need everyone it has to win this fall because the primary season has been so divisive. Maybe you should all consider this before being so mean .

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Has it ocurred to you that you may be the one who doesn't allow any discussion when the people you think should agree with you don't?

This is my question to you: How are you playing nice when you lump all Obama supporters as if they were all one and the same?

You are entitled to your opinion and so is everyone else.

You see, you got the impression that "Obama supporters" have been mean while discussing the "bitter" theme. I got a different impression, but that doesn't make you mean. Or does it?

People used to complain about this all the time on Daily Kos and on Democratic Underground.

It is worse there now than ever, and you can anticipate more profanity, more snark, more disrespect.

Cause this folks, is Obama.

nah, it's people being bitter when their candidate is forced to "play politics".

and we have the right to be bitter. it's "playing politics" that's destroyed this country. we're bitter about it, and so should you.

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Hunter,

I believe you are suffering from a bit of denial here. Obama is merely the anti-Hillary for me. For many of us, she has gone a long way towards becoming indistinguishable from the Republicans. And that is totally her own fault. She decided long ago, at least as long ago as her Iraq vote, that she would run a general election campaign starting years before she could even be nominated. She's run against what many in her party stand for, for a very long time. The more she does this, the more slices of life-long Democrats she loses.

And for all her latter day devotion to rural America, she lost the nomination in Iowa when she was too arrogant to campaign all out. Had she defeated Obama in Iowa, he'd have been toast.

Her hubris has defeated her and praise the Lord for that. We've had 8 years of that in the White House and it's the last thing this country needs.

Face facts. Some of you Clinton fans are clearly not worthy of respect.

I go to 2 sites.
Here and DU. In both places I have witnessed language and attacks I feel are almost hysterical in tone. (Not always on me . I mostly just lurk at DU because the profanity often scares me off!)
And no, sorry, I am not the one who is closed minded which I can prove by the fact that I started out for Edwards, disengaged for a few weeks leaned towards Clinton as a Feminist and finally came out for Obama . If my mind was closed and I were not open for discussion I would have just disengaged completely, as many Democrats I know have.
But , I feel that we need to question our candidates and acknowledge some weaknesses along with their strengths.
We are, none of us perfect. But we have to question our leaders and hold them accountable. Nothing should be accepted from blind faith. We owe it to ourselves and our Nation to be as informed as we can be.
And I am not referring to just the "bitter" comment. I am referring to the general negative and defensive tone I detect in so many comments posted here.
Obama is the candidate of HOPE. We need to adopt a more positive demeanor in my opinion.

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And who is keeping you from questioning your candidate?

I find your post to be an accusatory swipe and misguided overgeneralization. Since you are open-minded, I ask you to read your blog again and try to imagine how is it that I find it to be quite negative.

Calling everyone else "mean" while you hail yourself into sainthood is probably not the best way to support your candidate. I wonder if you are hurting Obama...

I've read many of your comments here and am quite aware that you LOVE to stir things up.
Not quite sure why, but it is rather misguided and frankly , kind of sad.

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Like I said:

You are a saint and the rest of us "mean."

Sad.

Yes , you ARE sad, go cry over Keith Oblerman. He needs your sympathy as much as anyone!

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stravu9,

You state in your blog that if you

"so much as suggest the "bitter" thing was ill stated or ask any questions at all about him as a candidate I am dressed down by most folks here."

Even if you try to characterize me as someone who LOVES to stir trouble, I have not dressed you down, not even addressed you at all in any of these "bitter" related threads and comments.

However your comment towards me is quite a putdown. That is not helping maintain the kind of inclusive discourse and discussion you seem to advocate.

The tone of your blog doesn't agree with me, and while direct, I have been respectful to you in my comments; after all, I believe in respect.

Being mean is never my intent and I apologize for any offense I might have done onto you.

Don't worry, the explanation is coming. Just like it did after Rev. Wright.

It's clear if you look at what he said that he was talking about voting issues, not personal issues. When going in the voting booth, they cling to "issues" like guns and religion. And he's said before that economic hardship divides people by race and other issues. That's not new.

And while it's generally accepted to twist his remarks into something they were not for political gain, it's part of the "politics as usual" that he fights against. And that we want him to keep fighting against.

I think that he can win. But his chances are diminished every time one of us gives up on politics because of the nastiness that's there now. It'll take a lot of work to clear up the political mess. And he's the only one that can lead from the top, while we push from the bottom.

I very much appreciate your positive attitude and agree that we must all do our best to keep that attitude up.
I don't believe I have heard Obama "go negative" and I don't want us to do it either!

Not working on the campaign? Why not? Perhaps you are confusing the dynamics of a blog with real life. You are very unlikely to find the unreigned and often offensive commentary you find many blogs.

I understand what you are saying and will , perhaps change my mind . (I come from a long line of Activists!)
But to excuse vitriol because it is anonymous and online is to excuse Rush Limbaugh because you can't see him while he spews garbage or Anne Coulter when she writes some nasty column because you don't have to look at her!
We're the "Big Tent" we have to be inclusive!
I may try, but I'm not really an in-your-face kind of girl so if it gets rough I might bail, and I hate quitting anything!

I am a committed Obama supporter and I'm not afraid to say it was a poor choice of words. He is usually so eloquent that it comes as a surprise to hear it. I understand what he meant, most posters here understand it and many 'bitter' individuals elsewhere understand it.

What makes it a gaffe is that it gives Clinton something to pounce on and hold up to the sound bite listeners all over PA and IN and say "see, he is condescending". It was an unwise choice of words and he needs to remember that everything he says to any crowd whatsoever may as well be a speech in front of news cameras. I'm certain he will be very careful in the future. I also am sure that the opportunities to clarify and media attention from that will turn this into a positive for many voters in the same way the race speech after the Rev. Wright flare up helped you decide to vote for him.

The real condescending candidate is the one who lies to the voters and assumes they are too stupid to figure it out.

But, let's face it, barring an act of God , Clinton is through. To allow ourselves to be angry and divided on this site is just self destructive.
Clinton supporters feel passionately about her as well. BE gentle with them. We're going to need them later.
But if we can't have civil discussions among ourselves here how are we to win over doubters in the GE?

Thanks for being a voice of reason. There's a kind way to approach people to ask them to be kind in turn. You just did it here. Let's spread that message around.

And I agree with the point above, that there's a lot less nastiness going on in the real world than there is on these blogs.

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stravu9,

You have been arguing for civility on these boards for quite some time. I admire your termerity in doing so, I just have to say, good luck with that.

Coming from an old Dem family, I'm sure you've heard the usual maxims:

"Politics ain't beanbag"

or

"If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen."

You might feel more comfortable on the main page of the cafe, as those posts stay up longer, people are generally better behaved.

My experience as one of the many non-conformists here is that it isn't enough to agree to vote for Obama or Hillary, you must commit emotionally to one or the other to the exclusion of one or the other. Of course, the bulk of either's supporters aren't that extreme, but they do little to quell the er, enthusiasm of those that do. It's a pity, but that's politics.

I'm hoping things will settle after the primary, but I don't know. It may not. In the meantime, if you will insist on reading the reader threads, I'd stay away from the more forceful or extreme ones, as they are merely echo chambers and do not attract much quality discussion.

Yer pal,

workerbee

My personal favorite is one my big sister told me. "Democrats are like cats. It's hard to tell if the are f***ing or fighting!"
And Democrats are SUPPOSED to be non-conformists! we're the ones who question authority and defend those who cannot defend themselves! We're the "good guys" and we need to act like it right now , especially to one another because the REAL fight hasn't even begun yet!

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I've never heard that one before.

LOL

It's certainly apt.

Now this is change I can believe in!

Hurray!
Pay it Forward!

stravu9,

Unfortunately, this drawn out nomination process has built up rancor and pettiness on both sides. But to show you it's not "just Obama supporters," check out the pro-Hillary-Obama-hate crud on

www.taylormarsh.com

You will be appalled.

I realize that the fur has been flying in all directions but we Obama supporters are operating from a power position. We are not cornered and fighting for our lives! We can afford to be magnanimous! Most people here are going to end up, hopefully, on our team. We don't need to be antagonistic.

And ditto here too! I realized not long ago that I had been thinking and acting as if my side were losing. There is still a lot of fur left to fly, for sure, but we in the Obama camp really ought to take a breather and proceed with confidence, rather than freaking out at every new thing that happens.

Seems like an over generalization. The Obama folks I've met have been very positive. Online, of course, you get a lot of anonymous trolls on all sides. Take anything ONLINE with a grain of salt.

Thank you for the advise! Like I said , that's why I sometimes disappear fro here for weeks at a time!

stravu9,

There's a lot of defensiveness and nastiness on blogs that isn't apparent to me in real world settings. I too have to periodically escape the nastiness on TPM readers blogs and mingle with real world people to readjust my perspective.

I hope you won't take the on-line community of Obama (or Hillary) supporters as representative of the whole lot.

I agree whole-heartedly with your plea to scale back some of the animosity on this site. If someone makes a ridiculous argument in support Hillary Clinton, or an unfair attack on Obama, there's no need to go over the top laying into the person. What's the point? It's not going to change the person's mind, and it only alienates less-committed people who might come and look at this site for the first time.

The need for civility is even greater when somebody is making a legitimate point in support of Clinton or challenging Obama. I know that nerves have gotten very frayed over the last couple of months, so people lash out sometimes out of frustration. It's understandable, yet I also believe that the vast majority of people in the TPM community actually agree about the need to tone down some of the vitriol. They're just not necessarily the people who speak out the most.

I hope when the dust settles and we put all this behind us that you might be able to reconsider working on the campaign this Fall. Like you said, we need everyone we can get!

Thank you! I most likely will, like I said , I come from a long line of activists and Union Organizers!

I was thrilled by Obama when he first came on the national scene. The fact that he was mentored by Tom Dasche was a real plus for me. I joined the parade of happy people for change and was glad to give my money and my support for a leader I could believe in.

But now days I am starting to feel like I do about Christianity. I think the Jesus dude is alright, but I can't take his followers, much. It's like everyone and their teacup Yorkie is hitching their own prejudice to his star and it is just dragging Obama down.

We shall all see what actually does happen, anything we can predict is just speculation at this point.

I agree wholeheartedly!

"The Democratic party is going to need everyone it has to win this fall because the primary season has been so divisive. Maybe you should all consider this before being so mean ."

If you allow "mean" comments you read here, from largely anonymous commenters, to determine your level of participation in a political campaign then you really need to get a grip.

Bring a pacifist, I generally try to avoid confrontations , especially face to face ones.
Working on a political campaign is a lot of work and takes a lot of time and commitment to work all day and man the phones all night and canvas on weekends. You tell me to "get a grip?"
Why would I make a commitment like that to hang around a bunch of people who are mean to me if I ask a question or make a comment they don't like?
You'll catch more flies with honey , remember.

Actually, I think this site is quite tame and quite literate compared to most other sites. Many others consist merely of single sentence profanity strings. This site has many thoughtful contributors. I've seen nothing here that should drive you away.

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