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Self-destructive clique-like behavior


I recently did a post suggesting that if we were not going to have a woman as president this time around we as Democratic woman need to rally behind Michelle before she is “Hillary-ized” (a  term suggested by Kathy g) in the general election and when she becomes First Lady.  The comment thread left me in despair.

Our greatest strength as women is our emphasis on relationships, but it can also be our greatest weakness. Reading some of the posts on the thread I was sadly reminded of the behavior of the junior high girls I once had in an after-school program in the inner city. The boys in my group were tough, at times even dangerous, but they had nothing over the girls. The guys were blunt, always going for the frontal assault, but I could get them, when necessary, to set aside their personal animosities to let the team win. The girls, however, had tangled relationships with each other that usually took precedence. They would often take more pleasure in going after another girl, taking her down, than in letting the team win. Their cliques were insidious and their prejudices against other girls highly emotional. A win for women in general was not considered a prize. If a girl came from another clique they would "dis" her on principle. One commenter in a similar fashion complained that Michelle hadn't been properly respectful of Hillary so "screw her." Yep, reading that sure made me proud as a woman. Is this how we plan to play the political game?

I was originally speaking out for Michelle but let me be equally strong in voicing my contempt for ad hominem attacks on Hillary.  If women truly want a voice in politics,  a "different voice" as author Carol Gilligan once said, if we truly want to have clout, then we can't behave like a 13-year-old mean girls.

Obama has beaten Hillary so far because he has run a better campaign. She truly miscalculated the strength of his seeming novice skills and lost the lead never to regain it. She squandered her once generous head start. She chose to place a big money bet early on and lost it. She was playing high stakes poker and he ended up with the better hand. Hillary needs to fold and not complain about the rules of the game. Let us applaud her effort but remember Obama now needs to concentrate on building a new winning hand. We as Democrats need to stop all the distractions that the other side will employ and that will include attacks on Michelle.

Is Michelle a side-by-side match for the accomplishments of Hillary?  Not even close but she is not running for president. Is she a woman who has worked hard every step of the way to get where she is? Absolutely.  Will she be breaking precedence if she become the first African American First Lady? Absolutely. Should that make woman proud? Democrats proud? Americans proud? Again, absolutely. 

My last post was a request to Democratic women including Hillary supporters to rally around and defend another women we can be proud of: Michelle Obama. I am in no way suggesting we should not also continue to stand by Hillary whenever she is pounded unfairly in the press but let us as women put self-destructive clique-like behavior aside. 

When we present a united front we strengthen the power and place of all women.


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Is it only black folks who are tired of being afraid?

Michelle has spoken out against 'fear' since Day One.

Damn straight.

We're tired of a country where we're afraid of everything and incapable of discussing anything.

Michelle's speaking out against fear is really an appeal to fear and the obvious solution: "vote for us, you won't have to be afraid anymore".

I just watched an hour speech of hers the other day, a whole hour about fear and how they keep moving the bar and other reasons to be bitter.

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I don't know if the genderist argument is the best one to make. If someone can't stomach the notion of supporting a candidate simply because they have a single X chromosome instead of two, I'd say they've got some growing up to do. I doubt many people will vote for Barack Obama because of his wife. I agree that Michelle will probably be a great First Lady, but Obama is the one you need to vote for.

It's simply time to end the racism and the genderism and get down to more important issues.

I agree.

I wish I could support this post, but I can't. I'm happy to be friends with most everyone on TPM regardless of their opinions, but my admiration and respect for Hillary has ceased because of the choices she's made.

I distinctly remember Hillary telling us early on that she was not going to use gender in her campaign. But it’s been Hillary, who has so often told us that her candidacy is important because it is breaking the glass ceiling of gender. In contrast, Barack has never claimed race as part of his political capital.

How often has she told us that she has become the symbol for young girls everywhere to dream of reaching their goals? Barack has made no similar assertions to the black community.

In fact, in order to legitimize her own assertion, she always makes a point to include the importance of a win for the black man as well. She uses the significance of Barack’s race to make a case for the use of her gender in her candidacy. Meanwhile, she and her campaign have done many things to point out Barack’s blackness and spin it as a problem.

A low moment during the campaign came when Geraldine Ferraro made her comments claiming that Obama’s race was a benefit to him in this campaign: “If Barack Obama were a white man, would we be talking about this, as a potential real problem for Hillary? If he were a woman of any color, would he be in this position that he’s in? Absolutely not.”

History will not look kindly on this remark. Every time a woman or a black man in this society has “benefited” from sex or race, they do so after decades of being marginalized, debased, diminished, and trivialized. But Hillary’s response at the time was a fairly tepid “Well, I don’t agree with that” and then quickly adding equivocating statements that diminished any sincerity.

Hillary also kept the Wright controversy alive. Hillary’s choices are important. She could have chosen to leave it to the pundits and her surrogates. But she couldn’t resist, reminding us at every opportunity “Wright would not have been my pastor.”

Obama’s choices are significant in other ways. After the Wright controversy, he gave a speech that was considered historic. He not only addressed the controversy, he began a discussion about race in this country that has never been had.

But he has not campaigned as the black man. Hillary has campaigned as the woman and most recently, as the white woman. Her latest choice to blatantly describe her campaign in terms of appeal to White votes was so shocking. I wondered if it was desperation or simply becoming unhinged. What can she accomplish with this? She can’t get the nomination. This must be an attempt to bring Obama down at all costs. It’s the scorched earth policy that many predicted.

I’ve read posts here at TPM that have made me cringe-- posts that seem an attempt to explain away the blatant marginalization of Obama and the obvious racialized aspects of this primary season. But I’ve also read posts that have given me hope that we are starting to talk about these issues in constructive ways. But the first step is to acknowledge there is a problem.


So true and elegant Bronx Girl!

gftb, I agree that some of the moves made by Hillary's campaign have not be admirable, and it's fair and sound to call her out on those. That's not the same thing, however, as trivializing her accomplishments and ignoring the context in which she's made various statements, or forgetting the struggles she's overcome to be a powerful woman.

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You just hit on something that I hadn't thought of until you mentioned it. Hillary IS a powerful person. That's one of the reasons I don't trust her. I figure there's never any risk in resisting power--no matter what form it takes. Obama appeals to me because he says he'll only have the power if we give it to him. He seems almost as suspicious of it as I am.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EgXdJqWc1U4

I'm a musician. I'll take one Patti Smith over a thousand Hillary Clintons any day.

I agree.

Michelle is not going to be "Hillaryized," and is as accomplished as Hillary in her own right. Michelle's husband did not get his wife placed as a partner in a law firm to help his political advantage as Bill did for Hillary. Hillary owes the sum total of who she is, and what she "claims" to have "accomplished" to Bill. After all, she is running on his record as President, not her own. And she runs away from his failures as well as her own.

This campaign, if one is brutally honest, has finally shown that portion of white America willing to take a long hard look itself, just where the old overt racism of the Jim Crow south has gone. Underground. Into the boardrooms and around the conference tables. Into the genteel recesses of country club life and the "smart set." In homes of people who "don't see color" any more, except for when they need to.

Instead of "separate and no way in hell equal" we now have "proximate equality and hidden intolerance." Hillary's claim that "Barack can't win," can be interpreted two ways: the personal -- where Hillary is loathe to give up because she needs to win at whatever cost. And the societal -- "allowing" Barack to win changes the very order and rules we live by.

Civil rights for minorities (and women, make that white women although "disenfranchised" were never unrepresented and never really a "minority") came with the tacit understanding that these newly granted "rights and privileges" extended only so far. Although unmarked by the stark signs of "Whites Only" or "Colored" (American apartheid), in almost all institutions the same rules of segregation applied. Minorities are allowed as long as they stay minorities and know their places.

An Obama presidency smashes all of those rules. Government, where "white power" is consolidated, would not be as powerful with a black man at the helm.

The Clintons do not want to be the "ones" -- at least on the "Democratic" side -- who made the loss of power possible.

A very precise and historically informed post. Thanks

Blue dude, Hillary owes her career to a redneck who couldn't even win DA his first election out? Feel the Clinton Dynastic power at work in the backwoods. Feel his seductive charm lure her from the deadend halls of Yale into the well-connected boardrooms of Fayetteville. How about looking up Hillary's early education & career on Wikipedia.

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"The disenfranchised were never unrepresented and thus are not a minority." Can it get any dumber than that?

I wish I could support this post, but I can't.

I wish I could support your comment, girl from the bronx, but I can't. Here's why.

"I wish I could support this post, but I can't. I'm happy to be friends with most everyone on TPM regardless of their opinions, but my admiration and respect for Hillary has ceased because of the choices she's made."

I'm confused. You are unhappy with the way Clinton has campaigned, and that means you can't agree with someone who says even Clinton supporters should rally around Michelle Obama if she's unfairly attacked?

Am I the only person who read some of the comments here and wondered if we'd read the same original post?

"Barack has never claimed race as part of his political capital." Giggle. Tee hee. Guffaw guffaw. Alright, where's the hidden camera.

See, more intellectual dishonesty. Obama does not run around proclaiming he is the black candidate that black people have been waiting for Desidero. Instead he says we are one's we've been waiting for, that seems a bit more inclussive. Dont exploit the fact that he has to recognize in some situations that he will be known as the black candidate through no means of his own.....Exploitation like that is sad!

He has used his ethnic makeup as one of the major foundations of his whole campaign. Then if someone points out how bogus these arguments are, the onus of racism lies on them. The world will look at us better because his great grannie lives on Lake Victoria? He understands the world better for living 4 years as a kid in Indonesia? Having mixed parents makes him uniquely endowed to see America's troubles and solutions? It's all self-identity politics masked as some kind of Boomer/Gen-X Manifesto.

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He built his entire campaign around it, from his books to today.

Nothing you can say or do will ever change my affection for you.

Careful...told you I fall easy....:)

Bronx girl...on second thought, Im thinking you might have been speaking of Desidero......if so sorry...How embarrassing...lol...:)

Yeah, but the same applies to you, of course!
Now, I really gotta go. Later.

Sorry Sean, but I have animal magnetism working for me. She can't go to the Bronx Zoo without thinking of me and me alone.

Apologies for a brief intrusion.

Desidero,

I awoke with an understanding of the description of your image.

Thanks,

levi

In contrast, Barack has never claimed race as part of his political capital.

BS.

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When being at least part African is a political plus we have come a long way. For this I would be grateful, were it true.

It's such a sweet advantage to be a different skin tone than most Senators, CEOs, and all previous Presidents and Vice-Presidents, it's simply amazing this hasn't been tried before.

Tom Wright...your so right.....

Im so tired of talking about race though...just tired.

Sean,

I do not know you. But allow me to state my own thoughts, with respect.

Righteousness is the anger of the Old Testament. Forgiveness is suggested in the New Testament, though read to the end, there is none.

Beyond anger and even forgiveness lie the real peace. And the weary need not rest as they awake from illusion.

levi

Levi,

With all do respect:

I do not understand why you are lecturing me on anger Today. Sounds as if you have been wanting to say this back to win I started another thread. Well, if you go back and look at my posts on that thread you will find that I have had my say. Looking through this thread I do not understand what gives you the impression that Im angry?....So with all due respect, those are the types of things that make me angry. When people try to paint me into things that I am not! Me saying what a bunch of crap is a response to the person who continued to spin the lie that Obama is BS. Do not confuse that with being angry. I hate being preached to when the preacher is wrong.
Let me clear it up. I wasnt angry before your insinuating post.

That's nice.

Now what the heck ya mean?

Mean about what?

Point Im trying to make is that Levi does not understand me and is preaching to me on a false premise.

Sean,

I do not go back in time to read old messages. I prefer the timeless void. I like you very much. You remind me of someone I once was.

Perhaps I am seeking my own peace among the debris of racism. So think of my post as not directed to you, but directed to myself, a mirror that I seek to dissolve in the way the id dissolves in Desidero's picture. Peace.

levi

Peace Levi...
Everyone wants to be liked, so hope your not mocking...:)
I feel bad. Here is what Im saying. I do not walk around with race on my mind. Infact I just responded that Im tired of people talking about it. That said, I DO NOT ignore things in my own mind that are racist. So if I missunderstood the intent of your post, Im sorry. I will say that I am at peace, but sometimes I tend to live in the moment. The people running around ignoring things that are so evident do upset me, but I only lose sleep over that when they are winning. They are not now. Peace Levi, and sorry if I missunderstood you..

Not mocking in any way.

And here I was thinking the New Testament was all about thoughtcrime.

What a bunch of Crap!

Hey Sean, how ya doin'? I'm off to work now. Just had to put in my two cents before I left.
Later...

Have a Great day...:)

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I need to clarify what I meant about Hillary.

I oppose ad hominem attacks even against someone who deserves criticism. We as woman and as Democrats should stand in opposition to that kind of attack on any woman--or man as well. My post was to proposing women standing up for any woman who is swiftboated. I think we should have Michelle's back when they inevitably take aim at her.

As for the campaign Hillary is now running she deserves our utmost criticism which is why I soon became opposed to her. I want the first woman president to speak in a different voice, a better voice, a voice that shows a new way forward. Hillary has not been that voice but the one much to contrary.

If you're going to vote for or against someone based on their campaign rather than on their foreign and domestic policies and qualifications for the job, then go right ahead, katjam.

Just don't expect me to take you seriously.

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Michelle will be the most glamorous and loved first lady since Jackie Kennedy. I cannot wait.

Glamorous? That's a reason to support her?

It's a reason to have happy anticipation, like Larry said.

As far as a reason to support her against the kind of attacks that hateful people made against Hillary -- do it because it's what Americans should do. Glamour is just the icing on the cake.

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Thanks. We should support the first spouse because it is a tough job, but I look forward to a first couple who represent the best America can produce rather than being 'regular folks'. I long for elite leaders that give us something to aspire to.

What a joke. Jackie is spinning in her grave over that remark.

One commenter in a similar fashion complained that Michelle hadn't been properly respectful of Hillary so "screw her." Yep, reading that sure made me proud as a woman.

Maybe you don't understand this response because you're an Obama supporter? I don't know.

Maybe you forget that Hillary is still running for the presidency of the United States, a more important job than First Lady. The more states Hillary wins, the more she is paving a way for future women candidates, correct?

Maybe you don't think that Hillary will have amassed some party clout after garnering as many votes as she possibly can. She is expected to do very well in WV and KY. Hillary is a professional politician who still has a career after this race is over. She is a permanent fixture in the Democratic Party. If you don't agree with this, then don't expect us to support Michelle.

Maybe you don't know that Hillary is the first First Lady to have had her own independent career. Maybe Michelle doesn't know this.

Maybe you don't know that Hillary is the first First Lady to run for public office (and I'm referring to her senate run). Maybe Michelle doesn't know this.

Maybe you don't know that Hillary is New York's first female senator. Maybe Michelle doesn't know this.

Maybe you don't know that Hillary is the first female presidential candidate to ever win a major contested primary (Shirley Chisholm won NJ's nonbinding primary in 1972). If you don't know this, that's not surprising, given the blackout of media coverage surrounding Hillary's historic accomplishment. Maybe Michelle doesn't know this, either.

Hillary has now won more delegates and primaries than any woman in U.S. history, and the numbers will rise, yet Hillary supporters are supposed to abandon her and support Michelle? It's simply unreasonable to expect that!

Maybe you don't understand that Hillary's millions of supporters will support her until she decides she's reached her goal, whatever that is.

But regardless, if Michelle can't be respectful of Hillary and her accomplishments (and so far she hasn't been respectful), then she won't earn the respect of Hillary's supporters. It's that simple. Michelle's public performances to date have made her look like a petulant child.

The comment thread left me in despair.

Good, join the club! It's a two-way street. Now, I have a request for you: Please educate yourself about the more vile attacks on Hillary (compiled and analyzed by Kathleen Hall Jamieson) before you even ask Hillary supporters to support Michelle. After you do that, then I'll consider supporting Michelle.

Thanks!

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First, I do not agree that Michelle has not shown respect to Hillary. I hear a lot of chatter to that effect but please show me what she has done beyond supporting her husband? Give me the clips. Post the quotes not the hearsay.

Second, I am well aware of Hillary's many many achievements and attributes and was until March a happy supporter. It was then she decided to drop any pretense of a new a different voice, of showing how women could do it differently and better, and start using every tactic she had learned from the Republicans. But more than that she ran a lousy campaign. She had no plan B. She chose to use the belligerent attack rather than try to win the nomination on merit alone.

Yes, she has won more than any woman has before her but Obama has topped that record by winning more than any African American. Not only that, he raised more money in a single month than any candidate EVER. That is why he is ahead.
If she had run a better campaign the victories she did win would not have been in vain.

By the way your " maybe Michelle doesn't know this" add-ons shows you don't actually know what Michelle thinks. You do it because it makes you feel good thinking it might be true. You do it because IF it were true your arguments would have some merit.

Michelle has made a few snippy comments, but no, I don't expect her to be supporting Hillary.

On the other hand, Hillary's been in the public fighting for causes I care about for a long long time. Michelle hasn't. I also don't expect that Republicans will go after her kids like they have Chelsea and Amy Carter, so don't worry too much. Michelle's big problem is simply that she speaks about bitterness, lack of opportunity, struggle and being scared in the middle of a hope campaign. Some people notice.

THANK YOU readytoblowagasket, my feelings exactly. Knowing that the Obama supporters almost universally hold Clinton and those of us who support her in such utter contempt does not inspire me to jump on the Obama bandwagon, how bout you? Not that we'll be missed by them, until November 4th anyhow.

Golly gee. I think I've been through this before?!? 1972. George McGovern. I sure loved that guy and we were convinced there was no way we could possibly lose, what with Vietnam, the draft and Watergate. Ahh, those were the days. I was a starry eyed youth and not the jaded old liberal I am today.

Belated thanks, cartcay, for speaking up! I'm not inspired or compelled to jump on the Obama bandwagon yet. Maybe. Someday.

I don't want to speak for p marshall here, but when I hear "supporting Michelle," I don't think that means voting for Michelle (who is, of course, not running for anything) or supporting Obama in the primaries. What it means is simply this: if Obama ends up being the Democratic nominee for President, we must be every bit as vigilant about the venom directed at her as we are about the misogyny currently being directed towards Hillary. This is not an either/or thing, and it's not about assigning blame. This is about standing up for equal rights and tolerance, and speaking out against sexism. and those are core Democratic values that I'd hope we could all get behind.

It might be instructive to consider the history of feminist response to this campaign. Especially that of well known literary feminists. How are they responding? What kind of model will their actions suggest? More important, of course, is the mood of everyday women and men. But in the public conflict of ideas and reputations, that is a clique I will follow with interest.

Feminists are split. You'll get one set of answers to your question from Obama supporters, another set from Clinton supporters.

I'm interested also in the specific splits among the literary crowd- Gloria Steinem and Margo Jefferson for example. How will those play out? Also, there has been a longtime rift between feminism and the black community, despite what the obvious spin has been. So I'm interested in the significance there. Not that these need be addressed here ( though I'd be happy to see thoughts), but only pointing to the historicity of the events, seen both in the short and long view.

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The feminists are still pushing the lie thatvoting for a woman based on her gender is less sexist than voting against her for the same reason.

The Obama side is still pushing the lie that most feminists aren't considering the myriad pro-female causes Hillary's championed, only the fact that she has a vagina.

I selected my preferred candidate by default. When all the other candidates who could reasonably called "progressive" and "opposed to the war" were eliminated, I settled on the last remaining left-of-center candidate.

Go, Gravel!

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I could only get through half your post. Once you started lecturing on how Hillary lost I figured I just didn't need the rest. If you want to unite people, don't grind your heel into their necks.

How about if the Dems get you a long, slow blowjob from Sharon Stone, Otto? Would that be "nice" enough for you?

Didn't think so.

Must be one of the weirdest stupidest remarks I've seen in 4 months here.

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Reality kind o' sucks, don't it?

Yes, more of the dont talk about it, even if it happened.....:)

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First, Obama has played "the race card" from early on and played it masterfully. Second, Michelle Obama early on, before things got nasty, stated that she would not work for the election of Clinton if Clinton won the nomination. The translation of that remark is simply that she is not that interested in "remaking" or "uplifting" America. She simply is interested in getting into the White House.

Hillary Clinton has had a known political agenda since her university days. Her roommates at the time predicted that she would be the first woman President of the US. She put off Bill Clinton at first because marriage would interfere with her political future.

Michele Obama's agenda is ... Michele Obama. The notion that she will represent all women, once in the WH, is likely spurious. She hasn't been seen much during the campaign, but what I have seen just makes me think she is a selfish, ambitious woman. That's neither here nor there, fundamentally; but, tasking her as some kind of "guiding light" for women is likely a mistake. The most likely scenario is that she'll be another Laura Bush.

Thanks.

mp

MP-From what I have seen, you are a liar. You lack perception and are quick to demean what you do not understand. The most likely scenario is that everything you write from here on out can be ignored without the slightest worry that you will say something intelligent.

Of couuuurrrrssse he has played the race card..(sigh)

Yes, so with what Michelle has whitnessed from the Hillary campaign against somone she loves, which Im sure any sane person would be upset about given the fact that through all the spin this race IS NOT close, if they stole the nomination from him, she shouldnt be able to show in human feelings about that.....(voooommmmiiit)

Im sure Caroline Kennedy will agree with you...:)

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"Our greatest strength as women is our emphasis on relationships, . . . ."

I think many womens' greatest strength is not in emphasis on relationships, but in manipulating those relationships for their own ends.

Its not that Michelle ever actually dised Hillary. To the Clintons, if you are not for them, you are the enemy. They are professionals at demonizing anyone who does not treat them as entitled to nobility. Fortunately, we are not a monarchy. Or will it next be their daughters "turn" to be president.

The Clintons have thrown so much garbage at Obama. The American people recognize this, as poll after poll shows that twice as many people believe that Hillary has run an uglier nastier campaign than Obama. as the populist candidate, how could Hillary or her supporters disagree with "the people." Clearly Hillary thrives on spite and revenege. Unfortunately, so to do too many of her supporters.

Also unfortunately, the same right-wing screamers who savaged Hillary when she was first lady are salivating at the prospect of going after Michelle. But as Hillary would surely say to Michelle: "You're on your own Girl. If there is nothing in it for me or Bill, screw you."

P, you've made me think about anything I might have said about Hillary that was negative or snarky, and I think I've been pretty consistant in loving women in politics, just not wanting this woman. Unfortunately for her it has more to do with Clinton history in general

Her ability to mobilze Republicans against her is so huge. And, I simply didn't want a campaign full of impeachment, Monica Lewinski, and presidential pardons. These distractions have dominated everyone's concept of Democrats for far too long. Whether any of these things are attributable to her are a source for great debate. I have seen facts on this web-site including her in some of the particulars more than I had ever suspected. Only serving to reinforce my choice for Obama.

Michelle, what is there not to defend? She may be the most dynamic first lady we have had in years, maybe ever. Ironically it is in her private sector job, as the VP of Community Development for the University of Chicago Hospitals that may be the most intriguing. Who else knows more about the current state of healthcare and all it's flaws than someone comming from this type of background, and from a University not an HMO. These are the hospitals that are more attuned with the communities they serve, through research and community outreach. Teaching hospitals have always been at the forefront of everything.

Unfortunately, due to the very contentious recounting of Senator Clinton's position as a wife who championed health care these facts about Michelle are overlooked, or underreported in order to not draw too close a comparison.

She may be Obama's secret weapon on more than one front. Health care, working mothers, and the myriad of problems involved in juggling today's families. This is a woman of pure substance. I'll take on anyone who doesn't get it.

Thanks for the consciousness check! Hard to pull off - nicely done.

Sorry I called you Mr. Marshall last time - thought right after I typed it occured to me that you weren't neccessarily a man, and why did I assume that - sorry to say I was thinking of Peter Marshall when I saw your initial. Tragic waste of childhood in bad television.

I had been thinking Penny Marshall (Laverne and Shirley). I wish I could get those years back.

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Actually it is Patricia and I am one of Hillary's "demographics."
Thanks for your comments Caringthinkingperson, they are always informed and thoughtful.

Caringthinkingperson, are you throwing the kitchen sink at Hillary?

Uh, who better than a 4 year head of community affairs to understand health care reform? Gee, maybe a doctor who worked in actual hospital administration? Maybe someone who works in health policy? Maybe for longer than 4 years?

By the way, I was curious how the University of Chicago labeled Obama in her job announcement - senior lecturer. Wasn't that easy?

Do you really think Hillary has a chance now? She lost the Black Vote, The People that read vote or as she puts it the elite. The only votes she has is the Archie Bunker vote. Her attacks didnt work and she wants to blame Barack Obama. The biggest sham is the Audicity of the Michigan and Florida votes, when they all agreed to the rules and because she is not winning she wants to change the rules? If Obama was in her shoes and tried to pull that one can you imagine the response? She shames the womans movement crying, changing the rules during the game? She has set the Womans movement back to the 50,s. Every CEO is looking at her and passing over alot of Woman today because of all her antics.

Michelle is a slug.

If you're going to trash someone, better to do it with some style and class. Tell 'em Jackie O sent you.

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Hillary has been the first woman who had a chance to win the presidency and so women in particular have rallied to her but we need to keep two things separate: the historic moment and the actual candidate.
First, this is an historic moment and many women are rightly caught up in the satisfaction and excitement of a woman president. They are so enthralled with the idea of it, however, they are failing to notice who the actual woman herself has evolved into.
For eight years Hillary built her reputation as a hardworking senator. She made us proud. Negatives about the way she did healthcare in the early '90's were quickly forgotten. Out of the gate last year she seemed sunny, successful, and very well-prepared. But then Barack happened and the new version of Hillary began to fade.

Many of us who had supported her watched her begin to transform. She tried an assortment of persona on for size: wistful, haughtly, vulnerable, self-assured, policy-wonk, teller of tall tales, personable, pandering. She was sharp; she was soft, but in the end she chose to employ the type of attack techniques she had had herself been the recipient of.

To me the fact that Hillary is a woman is no longer a value-added characteristic; she has chosen a political style I cannot admire.


I have been surprised and bewildered by the attitudes of many women in this race. It seems far more important to many of them than to have the best President available, regardless of sex.

The exit polls in the Indiana primary were an eye-opener. Despite the heavy and overwhelming majority of African-Americans backing Obama, those voters identified his "race" as far less important to them than the female voters for Clinton. This is consistent with the fact that at the beginning of the campaign, winning the "black vote" was no slam dunk for Obama. Clinton enjoyed considerable backing with African Americans, and it was only as the contest began taking on thinly veiled racist overtones, and Hillary started veering to the right that the bottom fell out for her with that demographic group.

Obama has never presented himself as "the black candidate" in in fact would have clearly preferred that the issue not come up at all - as unrealistic as that hope might have been. Even when assulted by obvious race-baiting, he has gone out of his way not to characterize it as such. On the other hand, Hillary seems rarely to miss an opportunity to claim all opposition to her is based in sexism.

As a male, I feel no urgent need to elect a female President. Nor do I have any objection to doing so. In fact, I have considered the entire idea to be so mundane as to be a non-issue since Thatcher's reign in Great Britain. If they can do it, I have always believed it would only be a matter of time before we did it here. The ONLY barrier would be the emergence of a woman who also happened to be the best candidate.

That seems to not have been the criteria for many women who have loudly and forcefully backed Hillary Clinton. Their position has struck me not so much as a celebration of Hillary as the "best candidate" who happens to be a woman, but the first competitive female candidate to come along, who also happens to be "good enough." irrespective of her competition.

There is something fundamentally wrong with this attitude. Something I cannot really address, because I do not understand it. I am certainly not supporting Obama because he is a male. Not only is his status as "black" not a reason for my support, but I would rather that he wasn't, only because the fact that he is unfortunately is going to present greater challenges in getting him elected. It's not right, it just is.

But if Hillary had performed politically, rhetorically, and principally they way Barack had, and conversely, Barack had played Hillary's role in this campaign, I'd be just as enthusiastic for her. I promise you.

Honestly, I understand and empathize with the unfair treatment women have faced in this country - the concept of the glass ceiling, and all that. But I really think some women believe the current situation is worse than it actually is, and it sometimes leads themselves to conduct that not only hurts their own cause, but hurts OUR cause as Americans - white black brown and yellow, male and female.

We should all support and protect Michelle Obama not because she is a woman, but because she is a quality human being, well-spoken and over-qualified to be first spouse, and happens to be running for that position as the spouse of the best candidate for President we have had in over 40 years.

At least, that's good enough reason for me.

Believe me, there are MANY women who feel exactly as you do - even quite a few in Hillary's target demographic! Ironically, many of us feel the entire reason for feminism is at stake.

The idea was to be considered as, and paid as, equal. Equality requires no special consideration other than qualification. And, when electing a president that qualification had better be superior. A lot of us feel blind-sided by the blind devotion. Especially when the most conscious candidate we have seen in our lifetime, and his exceptional wife, are right in front of us.

Thank you for your response, CTP. It beat the heck out of the flame fest I was anticipating. (Of course, the day isn't over...)

p marshall,

I was so tied up in my job until mid April, the rhetoric in the blogs escalated out of control while I was 'away'. It has been a horrible experience to go from a campaign that held so much promise, from hearing wonderful comments from a candidate who was running on unity and pulling together; to reading specious blog comments just about anywhere.

I agree completely with your comments about women and relationships. My oft repeated gripe is that life is tough enough without TRYING to make it a soap opera. Seems like folks are determined to do it anyway. Right up to the idiotic, if s/he is the nominee, I'll vote for McCain.

Hillary supporters are convinced that Obama supporters don't respect their position and have been rude and aggressive. Obama supporters hear from Hill, Bill and a host of others that they are delusional, hopium addicts and traitors to the feminist movement.

I do think we will get it together eventually. It sure would have been better if more folks had thought a little longer before they hit 'Send' or 'Post', to see if the right key was actually 'Delete'.

Seems to me the worst thing is the number of fallacies that are reprinted. If people who are on the net enough to blog have not figured out how to google information and check their facts before they spew misinformation, how do we expect the computer deprived from figuring it all out?

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