Of Palen, Teenagers, Decisions, Decency, and Politics
I won't be participating in the feeding frenzy going on right now about the fact that Governor Palen's 17 year-old daughter is pregnant. Apparently, the daughter will have the baby and rumour has it she intends to marry the boyfriend who fathered the child. I wish them well, and hopefully the child will be born healthy.
I would never vote for Senator McCain, even before his selection of Governor Palen. Indeed, I have every intention of voting for the guy who's mom fathered him when she was 18. Palen makes me even less likely to vote for McCain; she is as radical right as they come. But, of course, I'm into voting against them because of their respective domestic positions, and candidly, like most liberals and progressives I used to know, I don't judge people based upon how their kids turned out.
Like many of you out there, I know lots of folks, decent folks, very decent folks, whose children have disappointed them for all kinds of petty and real reasons. I think, like most Americans, like most people, you see quite a few things as you get older that they didn't teach you about in elementary school.
Governor Palen's daughter raises a question that millions of parents, pro-choice an pro-life, have had to face when their children turned into young adults. These are real decisions, and as the father of four, three of whom are girls, and two of the girls now being women (ages 21 and 22), I have confronted these decisions head-on. I bet I am not the only Cafe reader or American who dealt with birth control and teenagers in the same breath. Thank G-d, my adult daughters never became pregnant, but I'm not going to claim that the reason we were so lucky is that my ex-wife and I are exceptional parents. Stuff happens, and I think we dodged this bullet because, guess what, here's a secret. . . teenagers have sex.
In short, this is a real story that millions of American families, liberal and conservatives face. I know there will be plenty of wanna-be Rove/Drudges pushing this intimately personal family story who will claim that this is an issue that goes to Senator McCain's judgment (see Kleefield and Sargent with the imprimatur of Josh Marshall going ga ga over this). Have at it. But, to this life-long Democrats who absolutely destests the political views of Governor Palen and for reasons other than her daughter believes that she was a horrible and insulting VP choice (which, in light of her experience and views, does go to McCain's judgment), my heart goes out to her and to her husband and to her daughter right now.
Ultimately, it's not about me. So, more importantly, how do you think the rest of America outside of the Cafe is feeling about this story right now? Do any of you believe those Reagan Democrats we need to bring back into the fold want to have a whisper campaign about Governor Palen's family challenges?
In crass political terms, who are the American people who would have voted for McCain before this story broke, but will not vote for him now, or will just stay home? Always remember as we squabble into November, the issues we discuss are not just about us
I would never vote for Senator McCain, even before his selection of Governor Palen. Indeed, I have every intention of voting for the guy who's mom fathered him when she was 18. Palen makes me even less likely to vote for McCain; she is as radical right as they come. But, of course, I'm into voting against them because of their respective domestic positions, and candidly, like most liberals and progressives I used to know, I don't judge people based upon how their kids turned out.
Like many of you out there, I know lots of folks, decent folks, very decent folks, whose children have disappointed them for all kinds of petty and real reasons. I think, like most Americans, like most people, you see quite a few things as you get older that they didn't teach you about in elementary school.
Governor Palen's daughter raises a question that millions of parents, pro-choice an pro-life, have had to face when their children turned into young adults. These are real decisions, and as the father of four, three of whom are girls, and two of the girls now being women (ages 21 and 22), I have confronted these decisions head-on. I bet I am not the only Cafe reader or American who dealt with birth control and teenagers in the same breath. Thank G-d, my adult daughters never became pregnant, but I'm not going to claim that the reason we were so lucky is that my ex-wife and I are exceptional parents. Stuff happens, and I think we dodged this bullet because, guess what, here's a secret. . . teenagers have sex.
In short, this is a real story that millions of American families, liberal and conservatives face. I know there will be plenty of wanna-be Rove/Drudges pushing this intimately personal family story who will claim that this is an issue that goes to Senator McCain's judgment (see Kleefield and Sargent with the imprimatur of Josh Marshall going ga ga over this). Have at it. But, to this life-long Democrats who absolutely destests the political views of Governor Palen and for reasons other than her daughter believes that she was a horrible and insulting VP choice (which, in light of her experience and views, does go to McCain's judgment), my heart goes out to her and to her husband and to her daughter right now.
Ultimately, it's not about me. So, more importantly, how do you think the rest of America outside of the Cafe is feeling about this story right now? Do any of you believe those Reagan Democrats we need to bring back into the fold want to have a whisper campaign about Governor Palen's family challenges?
In crass political terms, who are the American people who would have voted for McCain before this story broke, but will not vote for him now, or will just stay home? Always remember as we squabble into November, the issues we discuss are not just about us
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LOL. I wrote that Obama's Mom "fathered" him. Now, that would be special. So sorry for that.
September 2, 2008 8:57 AM | Reply | Permalink
The biggest problem is that Sarah Palin's own story is not credible.
Remember, this announcement of Bristol's preganancy and impending marriage followed what apparently was a long period of speculation in the Alaskan press that Sarah was not Trig's mother and that her pregnancy was faked- for all-too-plausible political reasons.
Those political reasons are what induced the Governor herself to drag her daughter's private life into the discourse.
And it seems like the Governor is lying.
The issue is, how much politicians are to be trusted (nil, after being lied to continuously by the current Administration) and how people feel about being lied to.
September 2, 2008 9:10 AM | Reply | Permalink
And I should have stated this explicitly: How people feel about her daughter (and her boyfriend) being exploited in this way.
September 2, 2008 9:20 AM | Reply | Permalink
And Clinton was impeached because he lied under oath and not because of the blow job. (In reality, of course, neither of those are true. He was impeached for political reasons.)
I don't care if she lied about her Down syndrome baby or if she lied about her daughter being pregnant. Those are personal things, and in my opinion she has the right to lie about them. (We could argue about said right when an oath is involved, but she wasn't under oath.)
As Bruce and so many others here have said, there are plenty of ways to attack McCain (and even Palin) on the issues without having to cross lines that demean us.
September 2, 2008 12:03 PM | Reply | Permalink
You only demean yourself, by comparing this to Bill Clinton's blow job.
We are not talking about an affair here, though from your post, one would never guess.
And that is a problem- a category mistake of the first order.
I can't write more- out of complete disgust.
September 2, 2008 8:47 PM | Reply | Permalink
My disgust with her has nothing to do with how or when she lied. I presume all pols lie. I am thoroughly disgusted that she threw her daughter under the bus (so to speak) just to stop the rumor about her downs syndrome child who will never know the difference. Anyway, she only made things worse. Now we know she has no insight to protect her child and did something for her benefit while throwing her
daughter into the wolves nest.
September 2, 2008 10:32 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks as always for stepping in High School principal mode :) Sorely needed. I can't help feeling this whole smearmongering and attacks on parenting will backfire. I miss the progressives who focused on attacking policy and real issues, and thought digging up dirt and attacking character or family was beneath us. We have the GOP beat on the ropes based on issues alone and I can't understand why the focus on diverting to try to destroy people on a personal level. Sells issues of the National Enquirer, but that's what is going to determine my vote or that of any other rational person.
BTW Your kids really lucked out Bruce. They have an awesome Dad. :o)
September 2, 2008 9:54 AM | Reply | Permalink
A decent post from a decent man. There is no reason why this should be a national story except for the fact that certain people are feeling a lot of schadenfreude right now.
September 2, 2008 10:09 AM | Reply | Permalink
Dammit! I thought I was going to be the first to use shadenfreude!
September 2, 2008 12:58 PM | Reply | Permalink
As you can "c", Loki, you are.... ;-)
September 2, 2008 1:24 PM | Reply | Permalink
Dammit again! I "c"an't win today!
September 2, 2008 2:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
I suppose how one feels on this issue is how gullible one is.
September 2, 2008 10:19 AM | Reply | Permalink
1. I predict that this smearing of Gov. Palin will backfire on progressives. I watched Stephanie Miller and Ed Schultz on Larry King last night, acting like hyenas. I personally have the exact same reaction to them as I would if Republicans were smearing a Democrat: I want nothing to do with them; I don't want to be associated with them; I think they are creepy and repulsive. No "change" in politics as far as I can see. Congratulations, progressives, you are capable of getting down into the mud.
2. The "progressive" talking points on Palin appear to be scripted. Every "progressive" uses the exact same arguments and catch phrases. I haven't paid attention to all of them, but they include: Miers, vetting, judgment, hypocrisy, pregnancy, abortion, abortion, abortion. Do progressives really want ABORTION to be a 2008 election issue? If so, keep it up!
3. Getting pregnant is normal. Having sex is normal. Sneaking off to experiment being an adult is normal. The resounding normalness of the Palin family drama will ultimately speak to the general public more than Sarah Palin's views on sex ed will (and, frankly, no parent relishes sex ed). Finally, it's normal for parents to try to teach their kids one thing and have their kids reject it. That's how kids learn: by making their own mistakes. Any parent can relate to this. Progressives are making idiots of themselves to characterize the Palin family as somehow abnormal. The Palins are extremely normal. Sarah will automatically receive some parental empathy for her situation. Progressives are only proving they are not models of normalcy. Way to go, progressive freakazoids!
Maybe I should do a post about this...
Thanks as always for speaking up, Bruce. I've been wondering where you were lately.
September 2, 2008 11:18 AM | Reply | Permalink
Wait a second, how did the whole mass of progressives get caught under your glare of disapproval? So Stephanie Miller and Ed Schultz made asses of themselves on CNN last night; what of it? Richard Cohen did not talk about the Palin pregnancy this morning; he talked about the embarrassing lengths that Republicans are willing to go to make out as if Gov Palin is ready to be president. Eugene Robinson did not talk about the pregnancy; he talked about how Gov Palin's claim to be a reformer on a quest against wasteful spending is a bunch of smoke and mirrors. Bob Herbert did not talk about the pregnancy, except to agree with you that it would be a mistake to go after this as an issue. Most importantly, Barack Obama and Joe Biden did not talk about the pregnancy, but instead were clear that candidates families are not legitimate targets. How is this a case of progressives in general messing this up. I think that are painting with rather a broad brush here.
Meanwhile, I am hard pressed to believe that you can really think that "Harriet Miers" is an ineffective talking point. This narrative practically writes itself and is political gold. I am sure that there are a few folks out there going about the Palin-take-down the wrong way, but it seems to me that progressive media spokespersons are doing far more right than wrong right now.
September 2, 2008 12:31 PM | Reply | Permalink
Eugene Robinson? Bob Herbert? Are you joking? Since when are they considered "progressives"? And what do you think their readership is compared to Larry King's viewership? Hmm?
By "progressive," I am referring to the "progressive" blogosphere (TPM, DKos) and "progressive" radio show hosts (Schultz, Miller). They are all spouting the exact same talking points.
I'm not referring to Larry King. Nor am I referring to you. Nor am I referring to Obama and Biden (neither of whom are progressive in my book).
The bug up your butt is interfering with your reading comprehension, so bug off until you cool off. Thanks.
September 2, 2008 3:37 PM | Reply | Permalink
Fair enough. Happy to oblige you on that request.
September 2, 2008 5:25 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thank you. As ever, you are a voice of good sense -- which is not to say the blogosphere gossip hasn't been nasty.
But Daily Kos was the next best thing to a blog run by as good as terrorists well before this.
All the same, the admonitions here to be good are not inappropriate, and in some cases certainly well meant, but nobody in the Democratic party has been anything but correct about these issues, and of that we can all be proud.
And I would also point out that a couple of the champions of kindness and charity here are people who are among the nastiest and most abusive commenters board. You know the "especially people who care about strangers and social injustice types..."
There are all kinds of poseurs.
September 2, 2008 5:01 PM | Reply | Permalink
Thanks, Bruce.
September 2, 2008 11:34 AM | Reply | Permalink
Well, the over-reaction *could* backfire but I guess I don't see that as the real point. As an enormously less-than-perfect father of a 12 and 10 year old, and based on what I've observed, I entirely agree with what you're saying, Bruce, about how kids "turn out" and what that says and does not say about their parents.
I would add that I don't by any means draw a conclusion that Bristol Palin and her child are destined for lives of misery or that this unfortunate occurrence means that Bristol has not "turned out well". Nor do I believe you are meaning to imply that, Bruce. There is great embarrassment, of course. But life goes on and people have the chance to deal with the situation more or less well and try to have as much good as possible come out of it.
The news is out. People are going to make of it whatever they are going to make of it. The facts are not complicated. They don't need explanation or elaboration or endless repetition. There is a great opportunity here for Obama supporters to come off as entirely tasteless which I hope as many as possible of my fellow Obama supporters will choose to forego.
By chance I happened to see "Juno" on DVD the day before the announcement about Bristol Palin.
It seemed to me the premise of that movie is something like this: "What might it look like after a precocious 15 year old got pregnant after all the people involved, including her, got past the initial revulsion, judgment, shock, or whatever it was they initially felt, and tried to deal with the situation in both an honest and mature way?"
I've also been watching with our 12-year old daughter the ABC Family TV series "The Secret Life of the American Teenager". Better to start talking about these things now, I figure, so long as the show reflects issues and questions that increasingly occupy her attention, and so long as she will let me into that part of her world where she is thinking about this stuff. And with no end in sight.
September 2, 2008 11:50 AM | Reply | Permalink
Bruce,
Here's the issue as I see it: Bristol's pregnancy uncovers the hypocrisy of Palin's mandates. It is similar to Rush Limbaugh supporting a "zero tolerance policy" on any and all drug abusers -- only to find out that he is a huge drug abuser.
Here is what I would do if I were in the MSM. Palin must have quotes galore opining on teens and sex and pregnancy and abstinence and abortion. I have to believe that somewhere in there lies a quote to the effect of "zero tolerance policy" to teen pregnancy, or some opinion on the type of teens that get pregnant. (Call me crazy, but those with extreme views often show little empathy.)
I would then take the quote, present it to Palin and ask the simple question:
"Has the pregnancy of your own daughter caused you to reevaluate and change your views?"
If she answers "yes" -- well, that's a victory for progress and people should then flog her mercilessly should she campaign otherwise.
If she answers "no" -- the follow up would be "Why does your daughter deserver more special sympathy than any other girl?"
Either way, it's time for the country to grow up on this issue. My experience has been that anyone with extremist views (including ideas about race, etc.) typically have never dealt with those views in the real-world. For example, in Nazi Germany, every German could tell you the name of an atypical but "good Jew" -- even while the national policy became racist. Same is true about blacks in this country in the segregated era (it all usually comes down to "credit to his/her race").
Such views, based on emotion and the lizard brain, are childish and have no business being in national policy. Nailing Palin on this issue would be an important step forward for the country, if only to have people really think about what they are saying when they talk about "no sex education" and "zero tolerance policy."
September 2, 2008 12:14 PM | Reply | Permalink
Clearthinker: I respectfully disagree when you write that this situation is "similar to Rush Limbaugh supporting a "zero tolerance policy" on any and all drug abusers -- only to find out that he is a huge drug abuser."
Sarah Palin is not the one who is pregnant at age 17. Her daughter is. Are you a parent, by chance? My wife and I are trying our best to teach and guide our children as best we know how and we try to be mindful that everything we do serves as an example to them, for better and for worse. We have no illusions that we control them. They really do make their own choices, later if not sooner.
September 2, 2008 12:23 PM | Reply | Permalink
You missed my point. The point is that Sarah Palin has certain "academic" world views that are violated by her daughter's situation.
I note that you are openly teaching your daughters about sex, etc. I bet you wouldn't have a problem providing them contraception, etc. and would want the topic of sex education available in schools. You have also demonstrated empathy to Bristol's situation.
My point is that Sarah Palin, with her extreme views, now has to mesh those views in the real-world -- just like Rush having extreme views, only to violate them when he is the one with the problem
The issue isn't Briston's pregnancy, but Palin's private reaction to it -- because it better square with her narrow public statements.
September 2, 2008 12:33 PM | Reply | Permalink
Well, I wasn't attempting to respond to your overall point, just the one statement likening Sarah Palen to Rush Limbaugh.
But--now that you mention it--I don't agree with your broader point, either.
You write: "The point is that Sarah Palin has certain "academic" world views that are violated by her daughter's situation."
What is the "academic" world view Sarah Palin has that you are referring to? And how is it "violated" by her daughter's situation?
You're suggesting that there be a deliberate effort to politicize the situation by making Bristol Palen the poster child for sex education in the schools. I think that would neither be effective nor in decent taste.
Among other things, before suggesting that someone be made a poster child for some cause or point of view it's a good idea to get all the facts first to make sure they are a poster child for specifically what you want them to be a poster child for.
Maybe you have these facts. I don't presume to know, nor do I feel it is any of my business, to know the details surrounding Bristol's pregnancy--whether her parents talked to her about sex and if so what specifically they said and didn't say, whether she had sex education in school and what the content of that was, how she saw and experienced the situation, etc.
Even if weren't a remarkably uncompassionate thing to do, I think it's a very long leap even to suggest making Bristol the national example for the wrongheadedness of particular points of view about sex education without having those facts. And it seems to me entirely inappropriate to try to obtain and surface them against Bristol and Sarah Palin's wishes.
September 2, 2008 12:53 PM | Reply | Permalink
I never said to make Bristol the poster child of sex education.
Please re-read carefully what I wrote. This is an issue of Sarah, not Bristol.
September 2, 2008 12:58 PM | Reply | Permalink
Well, ok. But then I guess I am not sure what the point would be in asking Sarah Palin: "Has the pregnancy of your own daughter caused you to reevaluate and change your views?" as you suggest.
Because in order to answer that in a way that might potentially be instructive to anyone else trying to raise a child or form a judgment about Sarah Palin's fitness as a vice presidential nominee we would need to know what her views are or were, and how she applied or didn't apply her views to her daughter's upbringing. Wouldn't we?And doesn't that lead to the invasion of privacy?
September 2, 2008 1:08 PM | Reply | Permalink
No more so then when she wants to have the government dictate your choice about, say, abortion.
She has rather strong views about how everyone should act, she needs to subscribe to them herself. And that's the point of my post.
And the fact is that the character of the candidate has always been fair game because you are really electing someone who's judgment you trust (hopefully).
September 2, 2008 1:15 PM | Reply | Permalink
So it sounds to me as though you are saying, in essence, we have to find out if she is a hypocrite on this matter. She says she believes, as matters of public policy, in no sex ed, no contraception, and no abortion except to save the life of the mother. But her 17 year old daughter is pregnant and evidently is going to have the baby.
And therefore...? What follows, or might follow, from that? What makes you think she didn't follow in her own life the implications of the government policies she evidently believes should apply to everyone?
It seems to me that if she taught her daughter to use contraception while saying publicly that kids should not be taught to do so, or if she counseled an abortion while saying publicly abortion should be illegal except to save the life of the mother, she would indeed be a hypocrite and that is a character issue, as it is for McCain.
It's just that I don't know how that information is elicited from her without going over the line and invading the privacy of her and her daughter. Call it mother-daughter privilege or whatever. It seems to me we should want that protected and off-limits from electoral politics unless the people involved choose to make it an issue by talking about it publicly and voluntarily.
September 2, 2008 1:49 PM | Reply | Permalink
First, what she told her daughter is extremely important: it shows her values. This is a standard question of all candidates to office. This also has nothing to do with her child's actions. See the difference?
Second, the issue (once again) is that Palin has come out as against public sex education, etc. I want to know how her daughter's pregnancy has changed that view, if at all.
You keep coming back to this issue of the teen's privacy and yet nothing in all my postings even relies on that! So please stick to what I wrote.
September 2, 2008 2:16 PM | Reply | Permalink
You're a man of principle Bruce. And compassion.
September 2, 2008 12:24 PM | Reply | Permalink
Hear, hear.
September 2, 2008 3:38 PM | Reply | Permalink
As ever, a fine point well made, dear Bruce. Gov Palin's daughter is no concern of ours. I am proud of Sen Obama for making that point so forcefully on our behalf.
September 2, 2008 12:33 PM | Reply | Permalink
Hey all.
Been remote since posting this. Thanks for comments and will try and pick up the conversation later. In the meantime, I see how I've learned to spell Palin corretly since this morning.
Brue
September 2, 2008 1:05 PM | Reply | Permalink
Uh, I believe it's Bruce. ;^}
September 2, 2008 1:06 PM | Reply | Permalink
And, I believe it is "correctly." Heh. Just playin'.
September 2, 2008 5:34 PM | Reply | Permalink
Hmmm.... I don't now. I may have missed it, but i haven't seen a lot of sanctimonious, holier than thou, your teenaged daughter is a slut kind of commentary. If that what was going on, i'd be in total agreement.
But learning more about a VP candidate that is not only anti-choice, anti-sex education and anti-contraception but presumably teaches this silliness to her family, then finding out that her 17 year old, unmarried daughter is pregnant? Well a conversation is not unreasonable, methinks.
September 2, 2008 1:05 PM | Reply | Permalink
So let's say Sarah Palin and/or her husband taught Bristol *not* to use contraception. Let's say that's what her school taught her as well. Do you know if Bristol or her partner used contraception anyway? Care to recommend that the media "go there" by asking her and pursuing that line of inquiry?
Please.
September 2, 2008 1:19 PM | Reply | Permalink
Well if they used contraception the could really use some "education" as to using it properly. Something her mother preaches against.
And I said nothing about the media. I'm talking about people in these pages. And the American public. Bruce's post was more personal, less mass media. That's where I'm coming from.
Please.
September 2, 2008 1:38 PM | Reply | Permalink
Well, ok. But then I guess I am not sure what the point would be in asking Sarah Palin: "Has the pregnancy of your own daughter caused you to reevaluate and change your views?" as you suggest.
Because in order to answer that in a way that might potentially be instructive to anyone else trying to raise a child or form a judgment about Sarah Palin's fitness as a vice presidential nominee we would need to know what her views are or were, and how she applied or didn't apply her views to her daughter's upbringing. Wouldn't we?And doesn't that lead to the invasion of privacy?
September 2, 2008 1:09 PM | Reply | Permalink
My apologies for this duplicate reply to clearthinker's 12:58 today.
September 2, 2008 1:13 PM | Reply | Permalink
Bruce, you are right. Thank you for your post.
I also don't think it's a qualification to be President to do x or y in your personal life with your kids. Touting Palin's parenting, and bearing a child, as proof of her deep morality and entitlement to lead struck me as wrong, and the attacks on her family equally or more wrong.
To put a finer point on it, I think one calm point lost in this exchange is that when we privilege our candidates' personal morality in our messaging about them -- as by presenting Gov. Palin as particularly virtuous and living out her moral vision -- this opens the door to examination and criticism of her and her family, though I agree that the criticism is vile, and way past improper.
So I'd rather not hear about how Gov. Palin lives the evangelical life as reason she's a better person than others (say, women who chose not to have a Downs baby, who I think are equally moral and equally pro-family), and I'd equally rather not hear her daughter smeared and persecuted by hateful leftist zealots.
I don't think either is remotely relevant to the important decision our country is making this fall. It makes this election which is necessarily about big things about small ones, to refer back to a comment that should guide us all.
So I wish the best for Bristol and the Palin family, who seem to me like real people and good people with normal lives and problems, and wish the zealots would STFU about her. And I wish the GOP didn't hold out Gov. Palin's decision to raise a Downs baby as evidence of living out a superior personal sexual morality, and as evidence of her 'qualifications' to lead. It is not.
Separately, diachronic raises a point that in the orgy of shouting down is easy to pretend can't matter. It matters. I agree with diachronic that lying to the public is not acceptable. This goes beyond Palin, or left and right. Say something's off limits and refuse to answer it; don't simply lie. There is no "right to lie" about awkward shit. Just no comment it, and lead the discourse to a place where the public can decide and insist that the question shouldn't be answered. Lying arrogates. One can disagree with diachronic about this; but being indignant about it isn't an argument, it's avoiding the argument.
September 2, 2008 1:11 PM | Reply | Permalink
People's experiences inform (or should inform) their views.
This is done all the time in politics. An easy example comes from Obama's story which he likes to promote: raised by a single mother. On the GOP side: McCain was a prisoner of war.
So it is not unreasonable to ask how the experience of Palin's daughter's pregnancy has informed her current views on, say, sex education, or publicly available contraception to teens.
It is right and proper to ask these questions. Notice that they do not involve personal issues of the family, it's only an indication of the candidate's temperament, judgment, and views.
September 2, 2008 1:41 PM | Reply | Permalink
My concern is not particularly the personal life of Palin. What bothers me is that a woman with five children (the youngest 4 months old and challenged) and a 17-year-old pregnant daughter) leaves me wondering how much time will she have to devote to her Country. If she does the job that she is supposed to be qualified for and do well -- how much time will she have to devote to the "special needs" of her family? Someone will get the short end of the stick in my opinion. I am totally in awe with McCain's decision. He really JUST DOESN'T GET IT!
September 2, 2008 1:44 PM | Reply | Permalink
Ask John Edwards and Michelle Obama.
September 2, 2008 1:54 PM | Reply | Permalink
There but for the grace of god go I. At 17 I was sexually involved with a 17 year old girl. We knew about condoms, we even used them sometimes. But sometimes we didn't.
Most teenagers engage in all sorts of risky behavior. It doesn't matter how or what they're taught. They act like kids because they are kids.
Of course I support giving teens the most comprehensive sex education possible. But lets not kid ourselves. Kids will still have sex and get pregnant even with that comprehensive education. A discussion of comprehensive sex ed as opposed to abstinence only is not contingent on any one teen girl or boy's individual choice but on larger issues and policy goals.
Bristol's pregnancy no more discredits abstinence sex ed than a teen who had education in the use of condoms who didn't use them, like I didn't, discredits comprehensive sex ed.
The question to Palin over whether this changes her views on abstinence only sex ed is simplistic and no more relevant than the mirror question to a supporter of comprehensive sex ed whose daughter had all the information and education but still got pregnant.
September 2, 2008 1:51 PM | Reply | Permalink
There is a difference: you chose not to use the knowledge that you had. Sarah Palin would choose not to make the knowledge available.
September 2, 2008 1:55 PM | Reply | Permalink
Wearing seat belts saves lives. Except when they, unfortunately, don't.
Asking a politician of a child--properly seat belted but still killed in a car crash--if she now has reservations about seat belt use, and about urging others to use seat belts, is foolish.
Asking a politician of a child--not seatbelted at all and killed in a car crash--if she now has reservations about not using a seatbelt, and about urging others to not use seatbelts is not at all unreasonable.
September 2, 2008 2:01 PM | Reply | Permalink
If it was the politician's own child killed in the car crash, such a question would be unbelievably cruel. I'm just sayin'.
September 2, 2008 11:59 PM | Reply | Permalink
Great post. I posted this comment in the pro-Bristol thread as well:
What's missing is this -- can someone please explain to me how taking the focus to Bristol Palin helps Obama/Biden STRATEGICALLY in any way whatsoever? It distracts us from focusing on the fact that she's pro-secession, from the fact that McCain did a poor job of vetting, etc. We don't need this. The potential negatives are too high and there's just no reason to go here.
It's not about being scared -- it's about being stupid by not being careful about how we're controlling the media narrative. Leave the religious right on the sidelines. Not only that, but how about we follow the lead of our OWN CANDIDATES and support the strategy they're establishing?
Stop thinking about the personal battles you want to fight and start thinking about winning the presidency and securing a strong, Democratic majority. Separate the moral issues from this discussion altogether -- and please explain how any of this is SMART STRATEGY?
September 2, 2008 1:57 PM | Reply | Permalink
Bruce, I agree with you of course. But I can't help imagining what the response would have been had it Obama with a 17-year-old unmarried daughter. Picture the endless criticism of Michelle's career choice and mothering skills, the racist innuendo about sex and black culture, the anti-abortion activists straining to use the example to make their case. That such misfortune would have been unapologetically seized upon by conservatives and the media does not justify seizing upon Palin's daughter's predicament ourselves (two wrongs etc.), but it sure takes the zeal out of my desire to censure it.
PS Ethics aside, I don't think media obsession with the pregnancy will "backfire" in the sense that most Americans will resent it. We eat this stuff up, as evidenced by every tabloid in every supermarket, and we have a high tolerance for self-righteous disapproval of the private lives of others.
September 2, 2008 2:05 PM | Reply | Permalink
Do you agree with my argument above, Genghis, viz:
I want to know how (if at all) Palin's daughter's pregnancy has changed or informed her (Sarah's) views on teen sexuality, sex ed, availability of contraception to teens, etc.
The real issue is if Sarah Palin learns from experiences or merely stubbornly sticks to a dogmatic world view. The last 8 years have shown what a disaster that would be in the presidency.
Do you agree that asking such a question doesn't violate family's privacy?
PS You know you are right in how the GOP would go after the reverse issue if it had been Obama... ;-)
September 2, 2008 2:21 PM | Reply | Permalink
I don't think that it's possible for a question to violate anyone's privacy, but when you ask a personal question, you shouldn't exp